All Signs

Many of us are carrying around guilt related to our loved ones. We know that we have somehow let them down, or we have experienced being let down by them. This is not easy to deal with, especially when we have invested our hearts, time, energy, and long-term goals and dreams into the relationship.

The two energies might seem very different, but ultimately they’re not.

If you are the one who has been let down, if the expectations you had about the relationship have not been met, time and time again, then you are most likely dealing with a deep sorrow, a hole in your heart that feels like it could never be filled. The tendency to get angry might feel a little more than overwhelming. In fact, anger might be your coping mechanism.

If you are the one who has let down your loved one, if you have not been real with yourself or that loved one about what you can and cannot do and have therefore not been able to meet with their expectations, then the guilt will be tormenting you. You might not be able to show it. You may be defensive and trying to put on a show of bravado, because what could be worse than letting them down again?

Neither sorrow now guilt are going to solve anything. Nor is lack of communication by either party. Deep down inside, you know this. Well, you ask, what is the Universe telling you to do about it? Because ultimately neither situation — being let down or letting someone down — are the result of negative or “evil” intentions. We all have our reasons, and those reasons are always fear based.

The universe is asking you, your soul is asking you, and your loved one, deep down inside and maybe unconsciously is asking you to own up to what you are really feeling and to clearly communicate this truth.

By turning in, by delving deep into our emotions and being real about what we really want and need, we are discovering our totality and claiming it as part of our every day. And what’s wrong with that? Isn’t love about not only accepting a person for who they really are, but also celebrating it?

The “let down” syndrome is merely a result of not being real with ourselves and with those we love. If we try to meet expectations that are not in line with our inner intent then we are destined to let both ourselves and those we love down. And this, is the ultimate betrayal.

Aries – Mar. 21 to Apr. 19

Ahh, change is coming. Can you feel it? There are new possibilities on the horizon, and things feel like they are falling into place. Don’t be fooled though. This change is not coming from the outside, it’s not the universe, other people, or outside circumstances that are going to bring you what you are looking for. No, this change is coming from the inside. You are changing, and thus your outer world will change as a result. The change is you learning to accept your own brilliance, to see it for what it is, and to no longer deny it presence within your energy. You have been indecisive about doing what makes you feel whole and complete. You have stood on the cusp, always allowing perceived need and immediate necessity to dictate your actions. Remember that your intent, your will, is in charge. So whatever you decide to do, is your decision, and your decision alone. Start choosing what makes you feel whole, stop putting on the back burner what brings you joy, and magic will come your way.

Taurus – Apr. 20 to May 20

Utilize the routine of daily, mundane activities to learn about how much insight you have into the world around you. Taking out the trash, doing dishes, vacuuming the floor, going to work, all of these things can seem monotonous and boring. However, if you use these activities as a gateway to a kind of meditation, a kind of ceremony you perform to pay homage to everything life has brought you and all the gifts that it has bestowed upon you, you will open up your capacity to be conscious of your abilities to see into others, circumstances, and events. You have an inner shaman, but this inner shaman has been kept under lock and key. Why? Because you have been focused on the logistics. For you, if it’s not practical then it is of no use. But that is trying to change. The inner shaman has found the key and opened the door to your consciousness, and it is doing so gently, so as not to frighten you, through the ordinariness of every day activities.

Gemini – May 21 to Jun. 20

Sometimes it’s necessary to retreat and become a hermit. Doing so allows us time for inner reflection and is healthy for the soul. However, like everything else in nature, things change and you are coming out of your cocoon. The hermit has left the mountain top. And who are you now that you are coming back into the world of people, activity and distraction? Well, you are your own personal master. You have insight that you previously did not, you have strength and drive, and you know in what direction you are heading. Don’t be afraid to act. Don’t be afraid to trust your gut and follow your intuition. You are on the right track, so don’t let uncertainty cloud the clarity you have found when it comes to your inner knowing. You are mutable, you can take on any role required in any situation. This does not mean that you risk losing yourself. It means that you know how to invite the friendliness and cooperation of others through being what is required in the moment.

Cancer – Jun. 21 to Jul. 22

You are setting off into unknown territory. New experiences are on the horizon, and while this may at first give you a rush of energy, it could taper off into disappointment if you hold too many expectations instead of being receptive to what the universe wants to bring you. These are exciting times and you have an endless well of support and energy on your side, so utilize that energy as much as possible. When times get tough, when you are faced with too heavy a work-load, or you must deal with a project that challenges you to the point of tears, try to stay open. If you don’t, if you let yourself get discouraged because you think you don’t know what you’re doing, then you are closing the door to the energy that is available to you and ultimately letting yourself down. You will have become unwilling to take the bad with the good on this adventure that your soul has created for you. So when the going gets tough, stay open and remember to shine from within.

Leo – Jul. 23 to Aug. 22

Time to stop doing what’s expected of you, my friend. Time to stop guarding your heart and keeping what you truly think and feel locked behind your lips. The conditioned responses, the ‘shoulds’ and ‘have tos’, have kept you separate from your intent. Time to seek new vision through play. Follow a whim and dance in the garden at midnight. Nothing is beyond the scope of reality for you. Let your imagination wander. And, as much as you can, try to consciously let go of all the ties that bind you. Doing so is not a lack of love on your part. It is a boost in self-love that is much needed. You need to cultivate your own possibilities. And you will be able to do so through allowing yourself to be attracted to those things that bring you joy through the act of play. Keep your integrity (in other words, be real and honest with people about what you need right now), but don’t let the needs of others exhaust you anymore. Take out the hooks they have fastened to your will chakra and set yourself free.

Virgo – Aug. 23 to Sept. 22

Stop fighting! You are only going against the natural movement of your being by pushing against what is trying to flower within you and trying to stuff it away. If you let go, if you nurture the ideas, and the vulnerable, tentative burgeonings of your heart, magic will come to you. Not only that, but the movement you are looking for, the forward propulsion that brings new experiences and opportunities, will be able to free itself up. As it is, you feel stuck in the mud. However, though you long for this movement, you are also afraid of it because it means stepping outside of your comfort zone and challenging yourself by putting out to the world what you have kept hidden beneath the layers of regular routine. Maybe what you’re afraid of is the fact that you are the master of your own destiny, and it’s easier to blame others when things don’t work out than to own that you had any part in it.

Libra – Sept. 23 to Oct. 22

Summon the courage to love, dear Libra. Summon the courage to truly open your heart and let the love that wants to come to you, and the love that you have to give, flow freely. You get a little bit too worried about the moral implications of what you feel or what others feel for you and thus you keep yourself isolated. Expressing your feelings and being vulnerable is one of your life lessons. There’s something inside you that says that if you do open up, if you do allow yourself to become vulnerable and accept and give love the way your heart desires, that you will lose your integrity and get lost in trying to hoard that love and you will look like a mushy loser or an attention vampire, or something along those lines. Don’t worry. You might go through a phase of stumbling around and looking a bit like a fool, but in the long run, you can only benefit. I promise.

Scorpio – Oct. 23 to Nov. 21

When you have patience, your life will be filled with harmony. Quick and vengeful reactions will only cause discord and leave you feeling exhausted and scattered. Things are happening as they should, and whatever you have on the go needs time to mature before movement can take place the way you want it too. So back off, take some time for inner reflection, and utilize this time to make sure that all aspects of whatever project you are working on, whatever issue you are dealing with, are as perfect as you can make them. In other words, use this time to fine-tune and wait to see what the universe has in store for you. In other news, the feeling of being an outsider that has been haunting you these days, has to do with the protective shell you have placed around yourself. It also has to do with the fact that you are too much in your head, trying explain everything with logic, when logic isn’t necessarily what is needed. This stance, or action, will only cause postponement of the project or your ability to deal with the issue, causing you more frustration. Relax, my friend. And take deep breaths. Listen with your heart, instead of your head.

Sagittarius – Nov. 22 to Dec. 21

Brace yourself for the winds of change, because they will be a blowin’. It is very important for you to remain open and receptive during this time and to practice bending like a tree in a winter storm. Though some of this change will feel overwhelming, challenging, and downright hard to deal with, it is important for you to pass through it with conscious, ready acceptance as it is the inner shaman or seer in you that is being coaxed to the surface. You are fine-tuning your ability to look past the layers of denial presented to you by others. You are also learning to spot global family or kindred heart without the culturally learned patterns of your upbringing. In other words, you are stripping away your own judgement and this will help you to find those with whom you can create, share, and be open with while feeling safe and protected. So celebrate the fact that you are getting rid of the old and welcoming the new.

Capricorn – Dec. 22 to Jan. 19

When you look at what you’re dealing with, from all angles, the solution can only be to respond with playfulness. You’re still stuck in analyzing all the bits and pieces (to death) and you’re causing yourself a headache. Yes, you need to pay attention to reality, but it’s the attitude with which you do so that I’m talking about. Life is what you make it, so if you are able to shift your perspective to seeing the beauty in things and intending for joy and laughter, you might find that your heart is a little less heavy and the problems you are faced with aren’t as huge as you thought they were. Imagine that right now you’re standing on a ball, juggling candles, and playing a bugle. All the while you are worried that a monkey is going to pop the ball. Sound a bit like how you are experiencing life these days? In reality, this is all in your head. My advice to you is this: approach everything  with an attitude of pure naiveté. You don’t know what magic the universe has in store for you, and the stories you make up in your head about how others think and how you should respond, are only stories. Assume nothing.

Aquarius – Jan. 20 to Feb. 18

Now is a time of stripping away the old ways of doing things. Do not look to your past to solve the problems of your now. If you think that you haven’t been doing this, you’re wrong. Whether you are consciously aware of it or not you have been acting from patterns that you learned as a youth and it has not worked in the past and will not work for you in your present. It’s time to go inward and seek new vision, new ways of connecting with the world and how to seek what your heart longs for. Your head is not in alignment with your heart and that’s what gets you every time. You think you want something, you go out and grab it, and then it ends up being totally wrong. Open up to what you heart is telling you and create a new vision of what you want to manifest and how you are going to get it. You might be pleasantly surprised with the results.

Pisces – Feb. 19 to Mar. 20

Be aware that others are going to react to you with fear and try to suppress who you are and what you have to say. You are definitely not going to feel heard and you are going to have a hard time staying on track and not doubting yourself. But be persistent. Don’t let others’ opinions of you stop you from doing what you know to do. You are about to explode onto the playing field and shine like never before. Success is definitely coming your way. This period of others reacting to you with fear and oppression is like the final push/contraction in labour: extremely painful but so worth it. I know it’s not easy, but you’ve got to try to let other’s opinions slide off you like water off a duck’s back. Those opinions don’t mean a thing, and the people making them are only throwing harmful judgements at you because they’re jealous.